By Katherine Hood on March 24, 2024

Stop saying people, places, things, situations and circumstances make you feel any certain way. It's not a fact, not possible, and untrue.

Your feelings and how you choose to react to them are solely your own responsibility. It's crucial to understand that external influences, including individuals, environments, objects, events, and conditions, do not have the power to control your feelings or dictate your emotional responses. If you live a life believing these things DO have power over you, it's a life full of highs and lows (suffering). It is up to you as an individual to take ownership of your emotional well-being and make conscious decisions about how you want to navigate and express your emotions in any given situation. No person, place, thing, situation, or circumstance has the power to make you feel any certain way. If you give them this power, it can be taken away from you or you may live a full life of seeking for happiness (suffering). By recognizing and accepting this truth, you empower yourself to cultivate greater self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and resilience in the face of life's challenges. Ultimately, the ability to understand your emotions, how they are created, and train your brain to work for you rather than against you, this will allow you to lead a more fulfilling and authentic life.

The more we think about something and dwelling on it, the more importance we give it, and the more power it has over us.

While it may be easy to blame others for how you feel, the reality is that your feelings are a result of your own judgments, assumptions, rules, stories, perceptions and reactions. It's important to recognize that your emotional responses are influenced by your thoughts and beliefs, as well as your past experiences and conditioning.

By taking responsibility for your feelings and understanding the role that your mindset plays in shaping them, you can empower yourself to make conscious choices about how you respond to situations and navigate through life with greater emotional intelligence. Instead of placing blame on external factors, you can choose to cultivate self-awareness and practice mindfulness to better understand and manage your emotions in a healthy and constructive way. Ultimately, by acknowledging your own role in your emotional experiences, you can take steps towards developing a more positive and resilient mindset that allows you to navigate life's challenges with grace and authenticity.

By taking ownership of our feelings and understanding that we have the power to control how we respond to different situations, we can empower ourselves to live a more fulfilling and authentic life. This involves recognizing that our emotions are within our control and that we can choose how we want to feel in any given moment. By being mindful of our emotional state and setting intentions for how we want to feel, we can shape our experiences and interactions in a way that aligns with our values and priorities.

Nothing has the power to disappoint (insert other negative feeling) you. It’s your thoughts that are creating the disappointment.

When we are clear about how we want to feel, we can better navigate challenges and make decisions that are in line with our authentic selves. This clarity allows us to stay true to our principles, morals, and what truly matters to us in the grand scheme of things. By taking the time to reflect on our emotions and consciously choosing our responses, we can live a life that is meaningful and in harmony with our deepest desires.

You will continue to suffer if you continue to have an emotional reaction to things outside of you. The true power is observing things for how they really are. If you believe other peoples words and actions control you, that means everyone else can control you, take back your power!

Living your life with the end in mind, how you want to be remembered at the end of your life is the lighthouse to how you make decisions throughout the day.

Acknowledging the negative thought is a powerful first step in disempowering it. By recognizing its presence, we can begin to understand its underlying intentions (there's a good intention). It is not always easy to confront these thoughts, but by giving them a voice, we can start to unravel their hold over us. These thoughts simply want to be acknowledged, seen, heard and understood for the role they are trying to play in our lives - to serve and protect us. Taking the time to listen to them with compassion and empathy can help us navigate through them with greater clarity and self-awareness. Remember, we are not defined by our thoughts, but by how we choose to respond to them.

Next time you catch yourself attributing your emotions to external factors, try to shift your perspective and focus on how you can take control of your own emotional well-being. Remember, you have the power to choose how you feel.


“We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.” Einstein

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